The Path to Recovery | Of Love and Breakups

Relationships happen for many reasons. At times they don't end the way you wish it to be. However, no matter how tragic the ending might be; along the path of recovery, you are sure to get a few lessons from it to ponder on.

My Thoughts On Failed Relationships

"No relationships are perfect, but that doesn't mean you have to regret them..."

I do not believe in the saying that relationships fail because you are with the wrong person. No person can ever be wrong for you, for each person whom you have shared your life with has a purpose on why they became a part of it. No person can ever be wrong for you, if the two of you work together to work out your differences and try to adjust with each other.

The way I see it, relationships fail because they happened at a wrong time. At a time when you 2 are not yet ready for it. With heaps of emotional baggage still in tow, you expect that this other person accepts and loves you enough to be willing to help unpack all those baggage with you. However, that is not always the case. 

Which is why due to rashness and immaturity, you jumped onto going into a relationship-- not fully ready for it yet and without really taking the time to really get to know more about the person you are with. 

So, to avoid being hurt all over again, always have this in mind, that....

True Love Waits...

A motto I’ve started living these days. Getting into a relationship just for the sake of having one is utter nonsense. Learn how to wait. Don’t hurry it up. Don’t fret. Don’t stress. With that, things will start and end up better than just rushing head-on with no ideas where to go next once you’re there. 

Better yet, strike up genuine friendship with him/her; with that, you'd get to know the person better-- what makes him/her happy, what his/her aspirations are, what ticks him/her off, what brings him/her down, what makes him/her light up like a fluorescent bulb! 

Give it time. Patience is key. ;)

Close Your Eyes and Look Within

I cannot assure you that being single will always make you feel good- all the time. With several couples donning couple shirts and promise rings, to movies depicting happily-attached couples-- you would often feel that you are out of the loop. But, that isn't the truth. 

Even those couples you see are not always happy. Time will come, and they might just fall away, too. So instead of focusing on them, steer the focus towards yourself.

You wouldn't want to have another failed relationship, right?! And the best way to avoid it- Get to know who you are. Hone your skills and talents. Pursue your dreams and passions. Most importantly, love yourself. Now is the time to start living it up and molding yourself to be the person you wanted to become. No one can love you, unless you learn to love yourself. ;)

“It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, but it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” -Agnes Repplier

Pioneers start in the dark
There might be times when everything just seem to be enshrouded in clouds of doubt and ambiguity. If that happens, then take those times as the best opportunities for you to rise up and instigate the change, the shift, the transition that you need in your life. At times when you really miss the person, why not steer your energies on trying a new hobby (eg: fitness, foreign language, yoga, etc...) or an old hobby you have stopped doing? Take that time to reunite with your family or your close friends. 

Instead of drowning yourself in misery, start looking at things positively. Get your feet back up, raise your head up high, and get your ass moving towards wherever you want to be! *winks*

“Do not look back on happiness or dream of it in the future. You are only sure of today; do not let yourself be cheated out of it.” -Henry Ward Beecher

Enjoy the Process

Every second you live in this world is a second that you can never have again. So make the most out of everyday. Live it the way you want to live it. And when opportunity comes by— go grab it, for you might not have another chance at it. And if you must do something, then be sure to pour out your fullest-utmost-greatest shot at it to make it the finest and most unsurpassable thing you’ve ever made.

For, as quoting on what the Hafiz of Persia, said:

“When all your desires are distilled, You will cast just two votes: To love more, and be happy.” 

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Love and Relationships, Notes to Self, Personal, Singlehood